4 Things to Remember When Dealing with Anxiety

Its safe to say right now, that world events right now are troubling. A pandemic has been announced, our president isn’t smart enough to have a solid grasp of the situation, or any situation for that matter. Events and travel plans are getting canceled, and the economy is in rough shape. Even if you are not a normally anxious person, its understandable to have a feeling of dread or worry about the future.

So far this site has only been focused with hot takes on TV shows and movies. Just somewhere to post my thoughts an get my opinion out in casual way . However, Ive always wanted eventually to write about more serious topics that would spark some discussion about mental health or just ways to cope with the unbearable slog life can sometimes be.

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If you do happen to be someone who suffers from high anxiety or has been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, then you might be feeling even more overwhelmed than usual. Maybe even feel paralyzed.

Its ok to feel to this way, and its certainly not something to be ashamed of or feel like you have to hide from your friends or family. In times of high stress, its important to be open and honest. Its also very find and practice strategy to overcome that bouts of Anxiety/Depression. Here are some things to remember when dealing with the rough times

1. Remember To Breathe

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Deep Breathes, people

Seriously. Take a few deep breathes a few times a day . If you happen to be the type of person who gets worked up easily, or, if you’re like me, and your mind happens to be a black belt in overthinking any situation, it can feel suffocating.

Mindful Breathing Practice can help gather your thoughts, focus on the here and now, allow you to briefly relax the grip on whatever anger or insecurities are plaguing you at the moment. It doesn’t even have take a lot of time, taking 15 min. to just decompress can give a boost for rest of the day. Its something to try before going straight to other ways of coping like drinking, zoning out to video games, or smoking (because lets face it, those things are really fun to do as well)

The most basic way to do mindful breathing is simply to focus your attention on your breath, the inhale and exhale. You can do this while standing, but ideally you’ll be sitting or even lying in a comfortable position. Your eyes may be open or closed, but you may find it easier to maintain your focus if you close your eyes.

I’ve personally tried numerous times. Trust me, it takes practice, but so does learning literally any new skill. You can also do it anytime you want, for as long you want. It cant hurt and your mind will thankful for the break.

2. Remember To Have Plan

I read a phrase a couple of weeks ago while I was online just goofing of. It was on a thread about succeeding in job interviews but I like feel its one of the those rare gems where they can be adapted into a lot different situations.

“Hope is not a strategy.”

Now to some folks that phrase sounds a little callous or even like a bit of downer, but its something I wholeheartedly agree with. You wont win the war with anxiety with wishful thinking. You cant spend your valuable time hoping for things to get better.

It all comes down to you and how you plan your days out. Whether you’re worrying about paying bills, losing weight, making money, doing something creative or just want to get through the days without feeling crappy and depressed, you need a strategy. A rough idea of what you want, how to get it, and how to avoid triggers and distractions on the way to getting it.

What does planning look like? Its:

  • Getting yourself on a schedule that you enjoy
  • Setting alarms for things you know you need to do
  • Knowing what triggers you, then finding a way to overcome it or avoid
  • Giving yourself time to relax and reflect

When dealing with your anxious and annoying thoughts, it can feel like you’re your own worst enemy. But hey, you know what defeats any strong enemy? A strong game plan.

3. Remember to check on your friends

Me for the past few days since my best friend passed away ...

For some of us, we have a very unhealthy thought process that goes

“I shouldn’t be bothering people with my problems. No one really wants to help”

Raise your hand if you have ever had that thought.

Now put your hand down, you look silly.

Its normal to be afraid of reaching out to friends for help, making yourself vulnerable is not an easy task for anyone to do. Especially if you come from a background where trust is in short supply. But it also helps to realize that your homies might be going through it to.

That’s why I’m telling you, the reader, to make the first move and check on your true friends. The people you care about and know that they care about you. Because a real friend isn’t just someone whos available to party, drink with, or borrow money from. Nah, a true homie is there for you in the rough times too. The times of sadness, anger, disappointment and shame. The special few who stick with you through those times are ones to be remembered.

Cant think of anyone like that in your social circle? Might be time to for some new friends

4. Remember that “This too, Shall Pass”

A fact of life is that it is excruciatingly hard. The universe can and will be unfair, and its only a matter of time before it all becomes so overwhelming that’s its almost paralyzing. That whatever is causing your mental hell right now is unending. Maybe you’re in the middle of one of those times right now.

If you are, I want to share an old saying that you might have heard before:

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Not to get all philosophical in the end (although its probably way too late for that), but everything in life, good or bad, is temporary. Including our thoughts and emotions. Remembering that can be freeing when your drowning in what feels like a sea of worry. Remembering to accept what you cant control and making the best of all the moments you can.